How
To Deal
With Rejection
It's tough. Rejection is one of the worst things
that guys on the prowl for women have to go through, and sometimes,
rejection can be so very soul-crushing that it makes us want to
throw in the towel, board up our windows, and send out a mass email
to everyone we know letting them know that we're becoming a shut
in, and they can drop food off between 9am to 8pm Monday through
Saturday.
But it doesn't have to be like that. We can
all learn, no matter how sensitive we are, to handle rejection with
grace and ease… we can at least stop bawling in the middle
of the bar when a girl brushes you off (You know who you are!).
When You're Rejected… For Conversation
Ever go up to a girl a try to strike up a conversation,
just to be stepped on like a piece of gum under her stilettos? Yeah,
welcome to the club; we all have.
We all also have the habit of over analyzing
it, too. 'Did she say no because my shirt looks funny?', 'What did
I do wrong?', and even 'I'm a complete failure as a man' can run
through our heads.
Stop – before we thing those overly depressing
thoughts, take a moment to consider it. You have no idea why she
rejected you… it might be because she has a boyfriend. It
could be because she's had a bad day, and didn't want to talk to
someone, because she knew she'd just get upset.
Or it could be something else entirely –
like she's about to leave, and has been hit on/harassed enough for
one night.
Whatever your thoughts, do not, at all, ever
think that it's your fault, unless you tripped over her brand new
Coach handbag, fell onto her table, and pushed her $10 fruity mixed
drink into her lap and all over the 'sexy', $300 mini skirt she
was wearing. It's always good to hone and improve your skills, but
blaming it on yourself does no one any good.
When You're Rejected… For a Relationship
So, you've gotten to this girl – you're
not ready to start confessing every skeleton in your closet, but
you want to get to know her better, if you get what I'm saying.
You think it's the perfect time, the perfect
place, and you ask. You ask her to be your girlfriend, however you
want to put it – out, dating, courtship, for a romp in the
hay, whatever.
And she says no.
It can be pretty harsh, and make you feel pretty
bad about yourself, and your personality. But don't think it's you
– never think it's you.
You don't know everything about this girl,
and as we all know, girls have too many layers to count most of
the time. She could have a thing for girls, or be into something
you're not, or simply just not be ready for a relationship.
Overall…
Rejection sucks – there's no way around
that fact. But it doesn't have to be horrible. Don't ever take it
personally, and don't look at yourself first, but look at her. You
can never know what's going on in her life, and her mind, so don't
blame it on yourself.
And always get back in to try again…
if you don't play the game, you'll never win.
You can't be together all the time, and to
make sure she stays completely besotted with you here are some phone
tips for you.
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