Speed
Dating - What
The Heck Is It?
Speed dating – you might have heard of
it. Maybe from a friend, ex girlfriend, or even just something on
the TV or online? It doesn't matter where you heard of it, really,
but that you know of it; and that you're interested.
Speed dating is basically like going on twenty
to fifty dates in a single hour. It's intense, a little nerve racking,
and a lot of fun.
The Basics
The most common speed dating practices are
easy to get used to. A large group of women sit down at small tables
by themselves, and they have a card. Each card has many numbers
on it – the numbers represent the men.
The men, then, come into the room, and are
each assigned a starting place. If you're man number 'ten', for
example, you can start with woman number 'fifteen'. You also have
a card with the numbers of women with you.
Usually you get five minutes, though anywhere
between four and eight is common, to get to know the woman in front
of you. You both can talk about anything you want – from movies
to sex, video games, animals... whatever turns you on.
At the end of the set time, you mark a 'yes'
or a 'no' around that women's number. 'Yes' means that you're interested
in her, thought she was cool, and want to get her contact information
so that you can get to know each other more. 'No' means that you
just weren't interested – she might be a nice girl, yes, but
there just wasn't any chemistry there.
The gal has the chance to circle either 'yes'
or 'no', too; if you and she both circle 'yes', you get her contact
info in a few days. This mostly just includes a phone number and
an email address, but will sometimes include more. It all depends
on the service.
After your time is up with the first gal, you
hop to the next table, with another woman. This same scenario repeats
itself until you've seen every single woman at the event. There
can be anywhere between ten and thirty women at the event in just
one night, though numbers have been known to reach 50 or more, depending.
Speed dating is incredibly intense... getting
to know each and every woman, and competing against the men around
you. If you want to get a few 'Yes's' circled, you're going to need
to be able to stand out.
How To Stand Out With Speed
Dating
Conversation Starters
Stop and think for a moment – this woman
in front of you has just talked to fifteen other men, and chances
are, they've asked the same thing. 'What's your name' and 'Where
do you work'. Most women hate repeating themselves, so being asked
the same thing over and over again can be a great annoyance.
Try something new, instead – after introducing
yourself, ask her what she likes to do for fun. See what her hobbies
are, and what she does when she's not working.
Don't use the same tired lines over and over...
she's head them a hundred times, and doesn't want to hear them again
from you, no matter how good you look saying it.
Be Interested in her Interests
The first thing she's going to remember is
if you two liked the same things... really. Personality wise, it's
important for her to find a man who likes what she likes.
So instead of talking all night about how you
played football in high school, how your best bud may or may not
be with your ex, or how your one friend accidentally broke your
leg ten-odd years ago (It's been ages – let it go!), ask her
what her interests are, then stay interested. Really listen to what
she has to say, and ask questions to keep her talking about it.
Final Thought?
Speed dating is incredible fun – don't
be fooled, it's not for 'losers' or 'desperate' people as some seem
to be spouting on the 'net. It's an awesome way to meet people,
get to know others, and really learn more about the people living
around you.
If you want to meet people naturally then check
out the best places to meet
women.
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